This past week, our community said farewell to a legend in David Sharif. However, with anyone’s death in life, there is a process that we all must go through to help us get through to the other side.
That process is called the grieving process. It’s something that we go through whenever we deal with a death in the family or in a death in the community/business field, etc. Grieving is a natural part of life and little do we know that it can take a long time or a short time, depending on how well you know the deceased.
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Old Grist Mill Tavern in Seekonk, MA
In my life, I had to deal with the grieving process several times ranging from my three grandparents to various friends that I know closely. But the grieving process didn’t just resort to human deaths. There was also a grieving process for when there was a massive life changing event. One example was in 2012, when the most popular restaurant in my hometown was destroyed in a fire caused by a banana truck hitting a gas line.
I couldn’t believe it when it happened. I thought I was living in an episode of “The Twilight Zone” when I heard about the fire. In a way, I thought that many of us would be feeling the same way about the Grist Mill catching fire.
The Grist Mill, even though it wasn’t human, still left an indelible impact on all of us. The restaurant did so much for a town like ours that when it died, we all felt for it.
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Everybody grieved with the loss of the Grist Mill in their own way, some were in tears, others just stayed silent, others just did nothing all day. For me, I grieved in my own private way wondering to myself if the Grist Mill would come back from the dead.
Thats the other part of this story, some things can come back from the dead, but they have to be material and have no living soul.
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Now, I am saying all of this from an autistic/neurodiverse perspective. Like all neurotypicals, we grieve when someone we love and care about dies. Sometimes we have the ability to be in greater denial about something life changing that happened.
We neurodiverse can have a hard time separating the fact that we live in the real world as opposed to a fantasy world that we either see on television or read in a book. The sad truth is that we neurodiverse folk cannot go into our fantasy world and use whatever is in that fantasy world to rectify what we lost in our lives, simply because it doesn’t exist.
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Facing reality can be a very difficult fact of life, but it must be faced. The grieving process is certainly no different. Eventually, we must come to terms with a death, and we can either run from the situation or face it head on.
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Catch you all later!!
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