The picture from an episode of “South Park” says it all…naggers are people who annoy you. As a neurodiverse individual, I deal with naggers both in my professional life and my personal life and let me tell you, it drives me absolutely nuts.
I bring this up because I am pretty sure that during the holidays around this time of year, the nagging level is pretty high. People feel like that they have the right to nag and pick at your brains when in reality, they don’t, or they feel entitled to regardless of your feelings.
Perhaps the biggest nagger in my family is my mother. Always asking me questions and trying to stick her nose into my business where it doesn’t belong. I get the fact that both she and my dad care about me and want me to be safe amongst other things, but there are some things that I don’t want them to be involved in and I will admit that sometimes it’s hard to speak up without upsetting them.
Now, as a neurodiverse individual, it can be very hard to stand up to naggers when it’s within a personal or professional atmosphere. I know for a fact that I’ve been on both ends of the nagging spectrum whether I am nagging someone or someone is nagging me.
One of the most classic examples of nagging is in “My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic” Season 6, Episode 7 “Newbie Dash” where Rainbow Dash is imitating her friends in front of the Wonderbolts in order to get rid of a bad nickname.
For those who are the naggers, it can be very hard to recognize if we are nagging someone without even realizing it. This can range from trying to learn about something to trying to become friends with someone that can be forceful instead of natural.
I will admit that I am guilty of both sides of the nagging system as I have tried to force myself to become friends with people be excessive messaging or unintentionally crossing personal boundaries without realizing it. As a result, nagging caused me to get blocked or disconnected with a few people and I would only have myself to blame for it.
I know for a fact that I am better than some of my previous actions. As I learn from my mistakes as a nagger, I move on and try to ensure that it doesn’t happen again. As a disclaimer, if you are reading this and I have nagged you or someone you know in the past, I apologize for my actions.
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Now, when it comes to nagging, it can also be very unprofessional when it comes to being in a job. You want things done up to a certain standard and if you screw up, then there will be consequences. I’ve been in plenty of situations where I am nagged by supervisors and managers, and it drives me absolutely insane.
I get those things need to be done a certain way, but nagging isn’t going to get you what you want. In fact, it’s going to get you nothing in return. There have even been times where I get nagged so much that I want to walk off the job and never return to it. If you feel like you are in a job when you are getting nagged so much, then that particular job isn’t right for you. There are plenty of jobs out there for you where nagging is not tolerated.
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Part of the reason why I am currently looking for a remote job is because in remote work, you don’t need to be nagged and can focus on your own goals and dreams.
The fact is naggers can be ignored.
Sometimes it’s best to just cut off contact with those who do nothing but nag you because those are the people who don’t have your best intentions at heart and worry about doing things their way and their way only. You are better than any naggers out there, but it’s up to you to make that final decision on who is a nagger and who isn’t a nagger.
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Catch you all later!!
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